bluemicrobyte & girl advice, episode 3

[bluemicrobyte]

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[CrazyTom]

All that needs to happen is for Alana to have a crush on Kattie. Then you've got your standard love triangle. Well, not standard, but you known what I mean. ;)

To be honest, I think that you should search your feelings (hah) and see if your close friend isn't the one you really want to be with. I've found that following your crushes is fairly pointless - especially if the person you're crushing doesn't like you. Think what you're looking for in a potential partner, if it's that sort of decision. If you'd go out with Alana just for a fling / short time then it's not reallly worth it anyway. But if you're sharing deep thoughts with Kattie then you obviously have a strong connection. But eventually, you'll either have to go out with Kattie or dissappoint her, unless you wait so long she stops liking you.

:2cents:

[Spartan-II]

Dude, if she has a crush on you, and she's half decent, go for it. Why chase after someone who might not even like you, when you have someone who does like you?

I say go for Kattie, she likes you.

Hey, the only thing you can lose is a close personal friend!

[bluemicrobyte]

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[Spartan-II]

Well then, you need to somehow get Alana. Doing this, however, might prove difficult.

What is she like?

[bluemicrobyte]

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[Aquarian]

Funny, I'm in a similar situation like you right now, BMB... :P

Oh and she likes video games, mostly N64

Nice, a girl that comes by rarely nowadays. I only know of one girl that likes video games.(Other from those in WBs, fyi)

[Spartan-II]

Haha, my girlfriend plays PS2 and GCN. <3

BMB - Do what you feel neccesary. Do you want a short fling or a meaningful relationship?

[Aquarian]

Haha, my girlfriend plays PS2 and GCN. <3

Lucky you :P

[Leosam096]

bluemicrobyte should search his emotions:
whether if Alana is the girl he trully wants to be with him.
depends also, does he want his relationship to be meaningful and to the end or is it just affection(crushes are occasionally temporary)?
correct me if you find fault.

is bluemicrobyte willing to tell his feelings to Kattie like a best friend?
i got alot of experience with this but it doesn't matter because i don't live a life like bluemicrobyte, my friend. :)

[Demon_Child]

bluemicrobyte shall attempt to describer her in the following paragraph:

She's very outgoing and friendly, likes to talk on the phone and meet new people, and likes going places and doing stuff with friends. She can have a very short attention span at times, and gets bored easily. She's could be described as playful and fun to be around, and has *just* the right amount of fasion in any given situation. She's mentioned that she hates it when guys open doors for her. Oh and she likes video games, mostly N64 (and I learned this AFTER I started liking her =P).

This is beginning to see a lot like GrassDragon's situation he went through some time ago. Though all I need to read now is that she prefers mac and cheese over anything, but anyway. If Kattie seems interested in you and if you are remotely interested in her, then why not just give her a try. The worst that can happen would be that the two of you aren't compatible and if you do break up, then try to break up on good terms. That way it could actually work in your benefit when Kattie describes to Alana about you personal life. And if Alana finds that you have a good soul within you then she may even be the one who approaches you and perhaps even drop hints on wanting to go on a date. This little tidbit is what we would call "testing the waters." :)

[Kingscrab]

All I can say is, if you really want to date someone, let them know and don't pussyfoot around about it. The only things you should regret are the things you DON'T do.

[hammocksleeper]

I don't know why you think Kattie would be pissed at you for running game on Alana. If anything she would get jealous and want to spend more time with you, etc. But more likely she would just get over it with time and move on.

[GenocideAlive]

I'm fairly certain from simply the way you've elaborated that either Alana is just toying with you or she's hoping to strike up some hot sparxxx with you. You don't have 33 minute phone conversations with people that are just "Hi, how are you? Good." friends.

There's mos def something there, however it'll ultimately be up to you whether or not you can try to slowly ease your way into the pool and make something of it. If you try another cannonball like you did last time, I'm pretty sure it's going to have the same result: everybody running and screaming.

Katie, while admirable in her love for you, actually has some merit. You can't be "very close friends" with chicks, either party is trying to get laid in any given scenario. It's kind of sad that you couldn't see that, but lesson learned (hopefully). Katie drops all the hints, but you're so out of it that you really weren't picking up on it.

Now Alana comes along and she apparently thinks you're a possibility and Katie sees her relationship with Alana as an opportunity to maintain a romantic link with you. Your best bet at this point will be to attempt to talk with Katie as long and as hard as possible to attempt to get her to understand you value your friendship, blah blah blah and hope that she takes it well.

Because if she does, she can pretty much guarantee you ass from Alana barring major fuckups on your part. If you piss her off or make her feel jilted, good luck. She'll dog you to Alana hardcore and nothing short of saving Alana from a burning vehicle will get you any play.

In summary, talk with Katie and assure her that you're going to remain friends, you think she's great, etc. Then try to poke Alana with every ounce of your energy, but avoid the "desperate loser" image. Use Katie to your advantage (that's what friends are for, right?). And if worst comes to worst and Katie tries to help you and you still end up with blue balls, you need to fuck Katie. Regardless of your feelings about her appearance (which is obviously your hesitation), anybody who'd be willing to help you in that scenario despite their feelings is worth it, and deserves it.

[Black.Ice]

You like Alana, and don't like Katie. You're worried that you will lose your friend Katie if you get together with Alana. If you lose Katie as a friend, you would be hurt. However, Katie really isn't a good friend if she can't see past her own emotions, and realize that you like someone else.

Basically, go for Alana. Don't give Katie the wrong impression of getting together and then breaking up with her when you had that intention from the start... you know what I'm saying? That's really not cool to mess with someone like that.

If you like Alana, go for her. What do you have to lose?

[TinyDancer]

I agree with Black.Ice, and it sounds like Kattie is willing to let you go for Alana if she gave you Alana's phone number, instead of flipping out about it. Talk to Alana honestly, tell her that you like her and want to go out with her, if she doesn't think it would be to stressful on her relationship with Kattie. You don't want Kattie being resentful of Alana for going out with you. This kind of thing is complicated, but if you explain yourself thoroughly, everyone usually ends up okay.

[Darkslayer633]

While this sounds like the Dating a girl, but then gets a crush on her friend.. it is in fact missing one key part, you never dated this kattie.

so simply all you have t do is try asking Alana on a date... plausibly during one of your 30 min phone calls.. this way if Kattie does in fact like you in a romantic way, she can't run interference to askind Alana out.

there's a trick to asking a girl out... expect a No, then you can't be dissappointed, only pleasently surprised.. or get what you expect... YAY

[Black.Ice]

Also, since Katie and Alana are friends, I would talk to Katie first. Don't go behind her back; talk to her. Communication resolves a lot of potential problems.

[BlackHawk]

As many said, just tell Katie that you value your friendship, etc. Once she is fine with that and knows there is nothing there go to Alana and say the following "Hey, do you want to go to _____ (place, activity, etc.) on ______ (friday, saturday, etc.)?"

[CrazyTom]

Or even better, 'What are you up to on _Insert Day here_ ?'
Because if she's interested she'll probably say, 'Nothing... were you thinking of doing something?' ;)

[Hawthorne]

You're a wimp. On the line. You're a wimp. I tried helping you out last time, but you just don't seem to communicate with girls. Have you given thought on the other side of dating... I think you'll fit in better with men.

[Battlecruiser]

PPS: If you have nothing to contribute to the thread but you read it all, feel free to post any form of aknowledgement that you read it just so I can get an idea of where my stories are ending up.
I fall under this group.

[SpeedyWorm1]

Why does bluemicrobyte wish to be only friends with Kattie? I assume, it's because she's not as attractive as his standards are, or has a severe mental deficiency.

Dude, don't decide what to do until Alana likes you, or you like Kattie. You won't get anywhere making a decision now, because you can chase Alana forever and never get anywhere with her. Just chill where you are, good things happen to those who wait

[Leosam096]

thanks, SpeedyWorm1. :)

i sorta gotta agree with that one. chill out dude, sometimes bluemicrobyte gotta hang loose.
Living bluemicrobytey life is what bluemicrobyte should do now, the rest will follow. ;)

[BlackHawk]

Why does bluemicrobyte wish to be only friends with Kattie? I assume, it's because she's not as attractive as his standards are, or has a severe mental deficiency.

Dude, don't decide what to do until Alana likes you, or you like Kattie. You won't get anywhere making a decision now, becauseyouc chase Alana forever and never get anywhere with her. Just chill where you are, good things happen to those who wait

Good things happen to those who take the initiative to go after it. There's a very very slim chance some girl will fall into his lap if he waits. Is it really worth waiting a year for that "good thing"? Instead he could just take the initiative now, ask Alana out on a date and boom, he's got something going.

[bluemicrobyte]

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[Darkslayer633]

I am going to tell you striaght up, don't listen to it if you don't want to.

In life sometimes you can't just play it safe, you gotta roll those dice, and hope it comes up lucky.
Myself... i tried playing it safe... waiting untill i was sure about a girl to ask her out... well guess what... the whole time the girl I wanted to ask out was in love with me... no one told me.. and no one'll tell you. Too bad, I never took the chance of telling her how I felt untill after it was too fucking late. Now I am 3000 kilometers away and in love with a girl in a relationship.. who everytime I talk to her tells me she loves me[yes she is serious]

what does that have to do with you?
simple if you don't ask this alana out, then she may start dating someone else... and every day it will tear your insides out as to why you couldn't life up those nuts you have and just fucking ask her on a date.. a real date, not one of those with friends things.

and I can guarentee that when that happens, you'll look back a this post and say OH my fucking god, why didnt I listen to him.

[GrassDragon]

I think you're a bit too worried about this. You're a highschool kid. It's not like you're going to marry either of these girls. Kattie has been friend zoned. Ask Alana out. If things don't go well, tell Kattie that you are very stupid and had a temporary lapse in judgement, and that it will never happen again as long as Kattie goes out with you. If you're a bit persuasive, she'll do it.

So you could either get the girl you really want, or the one you only kind of want. It's win win. I think.

[DragonPaladin]

I would screw it and go play Starcraft. Love is too early to be thought about now and too troublesome to be dealing with now.

Of course, that's just me XD. I say for a sure thing that crushes usually don't last very long, and only the good ones do ^_^ So take some time and think about it over? Otherwise, a sure thing is might better then a calculated risk.

[Spartan-II]

Dude, just go for it. Normally, the longer you wait, the lower your chances. She might see you as indecisive and weak and decide to opt for someone else.

Go for Alana, and if that doesn't work, crawl back to Kattie on your hands and knees and beg forgiveness.

Basically, stop being a wimp.

[U-238]

I'd sayscrew em both. Life is short go have fun with it and stop worrying about some soap opera circle that's going to get you nowhere in life. Go manage your investments (assuming you have some of course) or get a job or like DragonPaladin said g play Starcraft! They're girls, high-school girls at that. 5 years from now you won't even remember them.

[DragonPaladin]

Basically, even if you have gotten one of them, the following are almost certain to happen, either one or more, and not in any particular order:

1) You move. Based on what I see, this could happen.
2) She moves.
3) She doesn't like you anymore, or you don't like her anymore.
4) You graduate, go to college, she does the same, you never see each other again.
5) One of you die.
6.) You guys break up.
7.) The world ends.

W/e, face the reality, most high-school relationships don't work out. But heck, if you want a first try at love, go for it.

[GenocideAlive]

Well, as far as I can tell, the consensus is: Go for it, and if she rejects you, go get some consolation ass from Katie.

[bluemicrobyte]

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[Spartan-II]

Did you read the advice GA gave? Explain to her that she's a great friend, and that you value your friendship, etc etc. If things don't work out with Alana, you can get some rebound action.

[TinyDancer]

Like I said before, the reason I'm hesitant to "go for it" and ask her out is because I don't want to kill the "friend" relationship we have - because it's nice having her as a friend. As I've seen many times in the past, once you tell someone you like them, any existing relationship is instantly destroyed (or at least impacted).

Then you're really bad at telling people you like them. :concern:

[Kingscrab]

Like I said before, the reason I'm hesitant to "go for it" and ask her out is because I don't want to kill the "friend" relationship we have - because it's nice having her as a friend. As I've seen many times in the past, once you tell someone you like them, any existing relationship is instantly destroyed (or at least impacted). Well then, I hereby elect you mayor of friend-ville. Get off your ass and try to make it happen. All this mopey blahbuhdyblah is getting old. Don't end up like that sad-clown CrazyTom.

No risk no gain, man. *shrug*

[GenocideAlive]

No risk no gain, man. *shrug*
Word. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, you pussy. Either grow a pair and throw the dice or quit crying onto my monitor. You're getting it all smudgy.

On a side note, we need one of those little smiley faces holding up a sign that says "Werd" back. I really liked those little guys. That is, of course, barring getting the little dancing lock back, whom I believe is one of my best friends.

[Kingscrab]

That is, of course, barring getting the little dancing lock back, whom I believe is one of my best friends. Sigh. Let us toast the good ole' days of the happy lock. I weep for thee.

Oh yeah... and here's to you bluemicrobyte! Now get your mopey ass off the couch and go bag yourself a bird! :beer:

[Sirion]

Look, bmb, the worst thing you can do is just wait. So, do something. I don't care what. Whether it's ask Alana out, or talk to Kattie about it, or whatever. Just DO IT!

Sirion out.

[Kingscrab]

what the hell!? FYI: POST REPLY button. Lower left. Um yeah, we've all read the first page already...

[U-238]

Okay, Since my last post didn't get listened to (as usual) Here's what needs to happen...

You ask out Alana
Kattie gets upset
U-238 swoops in and takes care of kattie
Kattie developes a crush on the ultra sexy U-238
You and Alana have a fight and break up
U-238 and Kattie start getting together

And we all live happily ever after... ...well except for you, but who cares? I've got Kattie! :P

[Ktan]

Okay, Since my last post didn't get listened to (as usual) Here's what needs to happen...

You ask out Alana
Kattie gets upset
U-238 swoops in and takes care of kattie
Kattie developes a crush on the ultra sexy U-238
You and Alana have a fight and break up
U-238 and Kattie start getting together

And we all live happily ever after... ...well except for you, but who cares? I've got Kattie! :P

Sound advice, until we realise you have to actually know Kattie or be within a few hundred miles of her. Also, she may find your radiation sexy, until it obliterates her.

I've not read this fully, so forgive me if I get the wrong end of any sticks, but you should just go with whatever feels right, but don't rush anything either. People always get hurt in situations like this, but if you're really good friends, she should be able to get over it.

[TinyDancer]

On a side note, we need one of those little smiley faces holding up a sign that says "Werd" back. I really liked those little guys. That is, of course, barring getting the little dancing lock back, whom I believe is one of my best friends.

You mean these?

http://img164.imageshack.us/img164/6098/padlock7vt.gif http://img447.imageshack.us/img447/3308/werd1et.gif

[Kingscrab]

You mean these?

http://img164.imageshack.us/img164/6098/padlock7vt.gif http://img447.imageshack.us/img447/3308/werd1et.gif You are the queen! :worship:

[GenocideAlive]

You mean these?

http://img164.imageshack.us/img164/6098/padlock7vt.gif http://img447.imageshack.us/img447/3308/werd1et.gif
OMFG where did you get those. :cry:

I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed.

Edit: Found the embedded coding. Wow, what a pain in the ass.

[TinyDancer]

OMFG where did you get those. :cry:

I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed.

Edit: Found the embedded coding. Wow, what a pain in the ass.

It was worth it.

[U-238]

Edit: Found the embedded coding. Wow, what a pain in the ass.

Sooo what is it?

Sound advice, until we realise you have to actually know Kattie or be within a few hundred miles of her. Also, she may find your radiation sexy, until it obliterates her.

Exactly, it's real sound advice. As for living close to kattie planes were invented for a reason you know ;) And everyone needs a little U-238 in their life :P

[TinyDancer]

Sooo what is it?

<img>http://img164.imageshack.us/img164/6098/padlock7vt.gif</img>
<img>http://img447.imageshack.us/img447/3308/werd1et.gif</img> with the proper brackets.

[U-238]

What on earth would we do without you? :P

[bluemicrobyte]

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[U-238]

PS: no more off topic smiley image talk =P

Yes http://img447.imageshack.us/img447/3308/werd1et.gif and :topic: posts are what get threads like this http://img164.imageshack.us/img164/6098/padlock7vt.gif :P

[SpeedyWorm1]

dude, i don't think you need our help anymore. You seem to have it figured out. Don't spend 3 months of your life on it, but you're not letting it go away. One thing I would stay away from is telling anyone you like Alana. Telling a girl you like her doesn't mean she will then like you. Spend more time with her, and give her "special attention" and see if she responds at all.