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LinkTheGameFreak
12-09-2005, 2:28 PM
why do people here get so offended by certain words and/or phrases?

I'm not trying to start an argument or anything, but I'm simply curious why it seems people get offended here by words :confused:
Ecthelion
12-09-2005, 2:32 PM
Because people think they're perfect and when somebody tells them otherwise, they get an attitude...much of the world's population don't like it when told they are flawed. People are weird like that.

I could personally care less what other people think and say about me. They're outlook shouldn't affect your emotions. If it does, then you are giving those people a way to control you.
GrassDragon
12-09-2005, 2:37 PM
Are we talking racial slurs or the general "you're a fucking retard" insult?

EDIT:
I could personally care less what other people think and say about me. They're outlook shouldn't affect your emotions. If it does, then you are giving those people a way to control you.
This man speaks wisdom. This is how I feel, but not many people understand it. It's easy for many to say "you're making me feel bad!" Only you can make yourself feel bad.
hammocksleeper
12-09-2005, 2:45 PM
That's true GD, but part of forming meaningful relationships is opening yourself up, making yourself vulnerable and building dependent associations and trust.
Modred
12-09-2005, 2:46 PM
Words can be very powerful, and different people will react to different words in different ways.

If what other people say does not affect you, are you saying you've never been shocked by what someone said? Never thought something was inappropriate conversation? Or at least that this doesn't happen anymore?
GrassDragon
12-09-2005, 2:49 PM
That's true GD, but part of forming meaningful relationships is opening yourself up, making yourself vulnerable and building dependent associations and trust.
It's not an issue of opening up, it's an issue of taking responsibility.

If what other people say does not affect you, are you saying you've never been shocked by what someone said? Never thought something was inappropriate conversation? Or at least that this doesn't happen anymore?
In a situation one person could feel the conversation is innapropriate and one could not, but it's the same words. So who's making who feel that way?
Ecthelion
12-09-2005, 2:51 PM
If what other people say does not affect you, are you saying you've never been shocked by what someone said? Never thought something was inappropriate conversation? Or at least that this doesn't happen anymore?Not necessarily what people say doesn't mean anything to me. I just don't let the insults and ridicule bother me. That is what doesn't effect me.
Protoss_Honor
12-09-2005, 2:54 PM
Hey, yeah, I really dont care that much what people think. In fact, I enjoy, I relish, I love, being called, crazy, insane, whacked, warped, etc. And because of that ,people call me stupid and stuff like that, I dont let it get to me that much, why should I? What they think about me doesn't matter any more then what I think about them. I might argue with them, but thats just because that is the way I am, but I try not to let any of that stuff get to me. yeah, I might be shicocked, and think it is inapropriate, but what can I do abut it? nothing really. But what Ecthelion says makes sense, peopel want to think they are perfect, so when someone tells them the truth, that they are not perfect, they get mad. Its just the way the human race is I guess.
hammocksleeper
12-09-2005, 2:57 PM
It's not an issue of opening up, it's an issue of taking responsibility.


In a situation one person could feel the conversation is innapropriate and one could not, but it's the same words. So who's making who feel that way?

I recognize that it's of your own doing if you are offended by a comment. My point is that sometimes it's desirable to have the dispositions that cause you to be offended. It shows that you love someone enough and trust them enough to care about what they think. Or in the case of racial slurs, etc. it shows that you care enough about other people to defend their honor.

The human society is dependent on altruism and symbiosis or mutualism; that's what has made it what it is today.
EvilEggCracker
12-09-2005, 3:01 PM
I enjoy, I relish, I love, being called, crazy, insane, whacked, warped, etc.

Your crazy!
Ecthelion
12-09-2005, 3:03 PM
Not letting it bother me is not saying I won't stand up for what I believe in. I'll defend anyone the ridicule is directed at and stand up for my honor. But I won't let the comments eat away at my self-esteem and respect. And regarding the racial slurs, do I use them? Occasionally, but always in a joking manner with people I know will understand what I mean.
Protoss_Honor
12-09-2005, 3:11 PM
Your crazy!Why, thank you. Than you very much. Seriously, I can understand what Hammock is saying, and yeah, when people use racial slurs, I get mad, but I try not to let comments directed at me, affect me, if it is directed at someone I know, Or a racial slur, I get mad, I do not allow myself to be offened by what people say about me. I try not to anyway.
GenocideAlive
12-09-2005, 3:41 PM
why do people here get so offended by certain words and/or phrases?

I'm not trying to start an argument or anything, but I'm simply curious why it seems people get offended here by words
IDK. I also don't know why you'd write some lame blurb like this after you decided to try to send me nasty PMs over posting that your 6+ threads you made in an hour were spammy crap.
Modred
12-09-2005, 3:59 PM
In a situation one person could feel the conversation is innapropriate and one could not, but it's the same words. So who's making who feel that way?
Aha! But you see, the question isn't "are you offended by the person?", it's "are you offended by the words?" This would depend on your own preconceptions and how you interpret the words. The words are the same no matter what; in fact, because the connection between a word and its meaning is arbitrary, you could say that there are no "negative" words. However, different societies, and the people within them, may associate different meanings with the same words; thus we get different reactions based on the listener, not the speaker.
LinkTheGameFreak
12-11-2005, 5:52 AM
the question wasn't about racial slurs (sorry for not pointing that out) but rather a question on why words like "handjob" on an internet forum make such a ruckus for some people... I don't understand it :(
Demon_Child
12-11-2005, 6:01 AM
Because you touch yourself at night [/Chaos]

People, in general are just plain stupid and simple-minded. They read what they want to read, hear what they want to hear and see what they want to see. It is almost 2nd nature for them to make a big deal out of absolutely nothing, but when they are asked why they take things to the extremes they can't come up with a viable reason, but rather more unhelpful excuses.
LinkTheGameFreak
12-11-2005, 6:18 AM
Because you touch yourself at night [/Chaos]

People, in general are just plain stupid and simple-minded. They read what they want to read, hear what they want to hear and see what they want to see. It is almost 2nd nature for them to make a big deal out of absolutely nothing, but when they are asked why they take things to the extremes they can't come up with a viable reason, but rather more unhelpful excuses.

wow. that's probably the most help i've gotten out of all of my problems I've asked for help on online and it applies to all of them O_o

ur scary DC... but i likes it ;)
Demon_Child
12-11-2005, 6:32 AM
Simple and direct. That's my style. ;)
LinkTheGameFreak
12-11-2005, 6:46 AM
Simple and direct. That's my style. ;)

I'm not wearing pants ;)
Demon_Child
12-11-2005, 6:56 AM
TMFI, Link. O.O
Spartan-II
12-11-2005, 2:38 PM
Because you touch yourself at night [/Chaos]

Atleast four times.

I'm not wearing pants

I'm not wearing any underwear. ;)

I find that that when people are offended by something, that button is pushed over, and over, and over. (Usually by me. :D) That leads to undue stress and sometimes emotional problems.

Anyway..

I don't get offended when people call me names. In fact, I usually think it's funny to see someone reduce themselves to shouting racial slurs and nonsense because they're angry at me. I love prodding some people into getting mad because they're reactions are hysterical, it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. Also - I severely dislike people who act like they live in a pure Christian enclave. I mentioned porn the other day and someone totally overreacted and called me a pervert. They said pron was disgusting and that it all should be banned.

I'm done now.
LinkTheGameFreak
12-11-2005, 4:16 PM
TMFI, Link. O.O

:D but you said you liked "simple and direct"
Night-Hawk
12-12-2005, 2:00 AM
" God made us rare so we can stand out " I dont get why people try to take controle of people by abuse I DONT GET IT does it make you feel powerfull !!! arg people these days.
kongurous
12-12-2005, 2:09 AM
Well... as said earlier in the thread, different people get set off by different things. Which leads me to my two favorite words in the english language: "fuck you".
Night-Hawk
12-12-2005, 2:11 AM
Leave it to skippy
kongurous
12-12-2005, 2:13 AM
Leave it to skippy

Don't get me started. Both you and me know I got a bit of dirt on you.

But let's keep off that subject, shall we?

/me toodles off on a bighorn ram that has a sign on the back of it that says, in big red words, "FUCK YOU", singing "Majesty" by Gamma Ray
Night-Hawk
12-12-2005, 2:14 AM
... I LOVE YOU SKIPPY :P ok I'll lay off i'm jsut messin with you skippy cant joke around :(
kongurous
12-12-2005, 2:16 AM
... I LOVE YOU SKIPPY :P ok I'll lay off i'm jsut messin with you skippy cant joke around :(

That's what I thought.


And Link, enough damn threads. Please... the past week or two has been dominated by your threads. LET EVERYONE ELSE HAVE A CHANCE, DAMN YOU!
LinkTheGameFreak
12-12-2005, 3:13 AM
That's what I thought.


And Link, enough damn threads. Please... the past week or two has been dominated by your threads. LET EVERYONE ELSE HAVE A CHANCE, DAMN YOU!

wtf :lol: i'm just having some fun, plus I trust you guys here to not be on my nuts when I ask you a question (fewer people respect me here, so it's a form of bias control :P)

plus the crowd here is less diverse in terms of intelligence (relax, thats a good thing, the majority of forumers here are very intelligent :D)
singo
12-12-2005, 5:44 PM
Ahh, personally I dont find much to be insulting. For several reasons.


1) Most of the time its not in a vindictive way. for example "OI, Dickhead, you coming down the pub?"

2) Anyone being vindictive is asking to be patronised like only a Brit can patronise.

3) Fuck 'em, I know I am superior. People attack that which they feel threatened by.

4) I can fart hugely and silently then sidle away before they smell it.
Sikawtic
12-12-2005, 5:50 PM
No matter what anybody says, you care in one way or another what people think of you.

Yes, that is right. You aren't as zen as you think you are. Deal with it.

I personally used to have a problem with bad words because it was a religious thing. Then, when I couldn't find in the bible where it says "no cussing", I started using more vulgar language. And don't use the "don't speak evil" verse, swear words are no more evil than any other word, assuming you are using them in a non hateful manner.
psycho42b
12-12-2005, 11:54 PM
Sikawtic, No where in the Bible does it directly say "no cussing" however, there is a verse you should be interested in that deals with swearing in general, if interpreted correctly. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.